7. Nervous habits.
When you’re chatting with someone who has experienced narcissistic abuse, you might notice they have some nervous habits, like fidgeting, tapping their fingers, or playing with their hair. These behaviors can be their way of managing anxiety or stress that bubbles up from their past experiences. As Dr. Laura B. Pawlak says, nervous habits often serve as coping mechanisms for people dealing with unresolved trauma. It’s like their body is trying to find a way to soothe the emotional discomfort they might not even be fully aware of. So, if you see them fidgeting a lot, it’s not necessarily about being rude or uninterested; it’s just their way of coping with feelings that can sometimes feel overwhelming. Understanding this can help you be more supportive and patient as they navigate their feelings.
Suggested Book: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.
8. Unusual jealousy.
If you’re close to someone who has experienced narcissistic abuse, you might notice they can get unusually jealous over seemingly harmless things, like you hanging out with other friends. This intense jealousy often stems from deep-seated insecurities and fears formed during their abusive experiences. Psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff explains that those who have faced emotional trauma may struggle with feelings of worthlessness, leading to heightened jealousy as a way to protect themselves. Their past makes them sensitive to perceived threats, even when none exist. So, if they react strongly to something small, it’s likely tied to their history. Being understanding and reassuring can help them feel more secure in your relationship.
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