3. Codependency.
The third category of women that the narcissist targets are women with three different characteristics. They could all be found in one woman, but generally, it’s codependency; it’s the fact that the woman has had a history of narcissism in her family, so she’s used to catering to that kind of mental disorder. So, she finds his behavior normal or acceptable on some level. The third type of woman that will cater to a narcissist is someone who is extremely vulnerable; she’s in a position to receive or need what the narcissist can provide.
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For example, if the narcissist is extremely wealthy and she is in a vulnerable position financially, he can then swoop in as her hero and save the day. She will then, of course, succumb to his will, and accept this help from him, which can then rescue her from her life or her issues. That is how he ensnares her. So, remember that when a narcissist does anything for you, it is not from the kindness of his heart; it is not because he is so altruistic. It’s because it’s a transaction, and he’s going to expect payback later. He’s going to hold the sort of Damocles above your head as a threat and as a weaponized help so that later on, he can bring that back up to get whatever he wants back from you.
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So, remember there’s nothing that’s done without condition. He will come back for what he gave you, and you will expect complete submission because of it, and he will never cease to rub your nose in it and remind you of all the good things he’s done for you because he does not see them as his duty as a husband; he will see it as a transaction that you need to pay back. So, anything you receive from a narcissist is a debt that you are collecting, and that you are now becoming indebted, and that you now owe him.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
So, those are the three categories of women. Let’s recap. Number one, the really submissive “doormat duchess” who has no will of her own and bends all of her free will and her insides, her inner calibrations, to his will. Imagine her like a windsock, whichever way the wind blows, that’s the direction she goes in. The second category is the very lively, bubbly, energetic, confident, charismatic “Life of the Party” girl who’s very stubborn, sometimes very independent, very strong-willed. This is a huge challenge and excites the narcissist once he’s bored with category one. Then, the third is a subsect of categories, such as women who are codependent, women who have vulnerability, and women who are used and accustomed to narcissistic abuse, so it makes them more susceptible to it.
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