Number 3: “I’m not bothered if no one believes me.”
If narcissists have no other ways to defend themselves, they resort to this excuse: “I don’t care if no one else believes me, because my truth is my truth, and yours is yours.” They will be quite confident when asserting their righteousness in this way, because you might think, “Well, maybe this person is so confident; therefore, they must be right, and they must know better.”
This is a tactic to make you look like the crazy one—to make you seem like the person who is disloyal to the narcissist, who doesn’t believe in the relationship, or who doesn’t believe in their goodness, righteousness, or loyalty to the relationship.
The “I’m not bothered if no one believes me” stance is followed by silent treatment and stonewalling—again, to escape. Once they do it, they offer no explanations whatsoever for what they did, why they did it, or whether they were wrong or right. They have simply taken the stance of being the righteous one, and because they are the isolated black sheep, they become the victim in all of this, and no one ever believes them.
They claim they’ve always been the victim, so now it becomes your responsibility to look into your actions and ask yourself, “Why did you blame them in the first place to make them feel this way?”
So, it is your responsibility now to make it better. They can sit in silence and treat you like a brick wall for as long as they want to, forcing you into submission and compliance. This is very dark psychological manipulation that happens at a very subtle level, and it’s equivalent to emotional strangulation and suffocation, because you do not get to express your opinion; you do not get to express your feelings and thoughts, and they are immediately invalidated through the narcissist’s silence and self-righteousness.
Recommended Book: How To Kill A Narcissist: Debunking The Myth Of Narcissism And Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse.
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