Number 2: Ignoring them intentionally or accidentally.
Ignoring a narcissist is like starving them for real. It is the ultimate starvation that the narcissist can ever go through because they function and thrive on attention, admiration, and adoration, whether positive or negative. They just need it. It’s like the blood supply that keeps the leech alive. I have been using this metaphor for a long time now. So, attention, your attention especially, is what keeps them going is what they want from you, and if you withhold it intentionally or accidentally, you give them a narcissistic injury. When you give them a narcissistic injury, it elicits narcissistic rage, and they try to punish you by withholding affection, abusing you via money, doing things to bring you down, and beat you there.
For More: 10 Weird Behaviors of People Abused By Narcissists.
Number 3: Not making them your first priority and only priority.
They hate to see their supply being connected, being supported, and being a part of other people’s life. They hate to see you around other people and give them attention because the presumption is all the attention that you have to give is theirs to take, so no one can claim it. If you are found with someone else, for example, if there is a good friend in your life, the narcissist would be pathologically envious and jealous towards them because they do not want you to be connected with anyone else except them. They want you to fully and completely depend on them, on them only because that gives them the ultimate authority over your life and over you, that gives them the ultimate control. They cannot tolerate to see their toy in someone else’s hands.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
This is why all the smear campaign happens in the first place. This is why the triangulation, visible, invisible, forward or what, takes place to isolate you, to corner you, and then make you dependent on them because once they see you dependent on them, seeking their attention, seeking their support, that is what feeds them, that’s what gives meaning to their existence, that is meaningless in itself.
Number 4: Seeing you living your life to the fullest.
Seeing you struggle and suffer is what feeds the narcissist into sadism. It is what makes them feel and control. It gives them the sense of power and to see you thrive is one of their worst nightmares. They want you to depend on them, they want you to suffer in the darkness that they are suffering in already so that they can feed on the life that you have to offer. They cannot tolerate seeing you rising above them in the level of freedom, internal and external freedom as well. They cannot see it, which is why they have to keep you there to make you suffer, to feel in control, to feel that they are alive, to feel that there is some meaning to their existence, your freedom and independence are death to their ego.
Related: 7 Things That Destroy A Narcissist’s Ego.
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